The Light House Effect is a spectrum of light that exists within all of us. You were born with it. Created in perfect form, whatever form that was, race, gender, color, religion, perfect. Then our experiences, or relationships with perhaps our parents, friends, society, societal norms, toxic people, get us to where we are now. This can mean your light has been squashed.
We have been raised as a society to go to school, get a job or go to college and become “worthy” when we meet someone, fall in love and settle. We have learned to define our self-worth, not from self-love, but from that of another. We skip over the most important chapter of all, the chapter of self-love! The one that changes lives for the absolute better, without question! We think that when we find love, we become whole. If that loves goes away, or changes, there goes our self-esteem and self-worth, out the window. It doesn’t have to be that way. You become "whole" when you learn to love yourself. I know from experience as an evolved Empath, who is on your team! Let's dive in!
On a scale from 1 to 5, what most closely describes your Toxic Alert?
1-The Light House is Closed. Toxic Alert FIRE!
My Light is OUT. There is/was someone toxic in my life and I am drained by it, even devastated. I am desperate to hear new perspective. It doesn’t make any sense at all to me. I cannot do this on my own at all! I am overwhelmed. I need you Coach Kathi!
2- The Light House is Open, but the Light is not on. Toxic Alert Flames!
I’m out of bed, but I cry a lot. I’m going to work and getting things done. I’m so loving. I did everything right and then this? I want you to show me the Light so I can have hope for change. I have given away my good energy to the wrong people/person. I want my light back, this isn’t working for me. I need you Coach Kathi!
3- The Light House is Open. The Light is Dim. Toxic Alert Smoking!
I’m breathing. Not great, but good. I’m tired of being invisible, like I don’t matter. I don’t really have motivation to exercise or anything. I’m managing the kids, life, the run around, my job, the bills and more. I don’t take the time to care for myself. I just go, go. I feel drained by people around me. I know I have so much to offer. I don’t know how to get there. I need your help!
4- The Light House is Open and the Light is On, but the weather is still overcast. Toxic Alert Smoldering!
I’ve been through it. I’m making progress. I have done a ton of work, but I can’t seem to make sense of it and need a new perspective. I’ve been to therapy, but it didn’t teach me about being an Empath and what that means with toxic people. I didn’t even know there was such a thing. I need your help Coach Kathi!
5- The Light House is Open and the Light is On. Weather is good. Toxic Alert The Match
I am on the path to healing. I have listened to a whole lot of YouTube videos on this but still need help finding my light. I am just missing that last piece, the part where my two feet are solidly on the ground, my inner light is shining and I am on my way to freedom and self-love! I need your help Coach Kathi!
Peace and love,
Coach Kathi Sottosanti